Here are some common mistakes people make when trying to comfort someone who is grieving: Saying, “I know how you feel”: While you may have experienced grief yourself, every individual’s grief is unique. Comparing their grief to your own can diminish...
1. Just listen – you don’t have to try to solve every problem (unless you know how to fix death). 2. Offer to carpool the children to/from school or sports. 3. Send gift cards to local restaurants – cooking may be the last thing on our minds. 4. If you offer to be...
I am preparing to add the 8,000th member to my online support group for young and widows and widowers. I continue to be inspired by the resiliency of the group, despite the heavy toll of death being the tie that binds us all together. As a prescreening/safety measure,...
You weren’t there when I told myself I’d never love again. You weren’t there when the guilt told me I didn’t deserve to be loved again. You weren’t there when the longing to be held and touched washed over me. You weren’t there as I struggled to recapture my past yet...
I was reading an article over on MadameNoire entitled “Life Will Humble You: 10 Things You Shouldn’t Speak On If You Haven’t Experienced Them.” While it was a pretty good list, I was a bit disappointed the loss of a spouse wasn’t on the list. It seems widowhood goes...
1. Referring to a late-spouse as an ex – Dead isn’t synonymous with an ex-partner. The terms are not interchangeable. Read it again. Not the same. EVER. 2. Comparing the loss of your (insert everything from second cousin once removed to pet worm) to the death of a...
