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Whether you’ve been widowed six months or six years, the grief and pain of losing a spouse or partner never goes away. Join me as I share my own story and those of others from the young and widowed community. Let me know what topics hit close to home, which posts you draw strength from or how you’ve been inspired to keep moving through the overwhelming pain. It’s a place where you’ll always feel connected, knowing there are other young widows and widowers across the globe who understand the many emotions that come with being young and widowed.
Widowhood: Where You Lose & Find Yourself
First, I want to say that I love my late husband. This post takes nothing away from that love that I continue to have for him...6.5 years after his death. Last week, as I listened to National Public Radio’s “Fresh Air”, there was a segment featuring...
Grieving the Impossible
I know you didn’t sign up for this life. I know you planned on your spouse being here to weather the storms of life with you. He was supposed to be here for the first day of school and graduation, the weddings and the grandchildren. He should be here,...
The Grief That Remains
I’m asked it all the time. I see it posted in support groups. I hear it asked of other widows... When does “it” end? The crying, the hurting, the rawness, the sadness, the suicidal thoughts, the nightmare... It’s been over six years for me and the “it” -...
Yes, I Still Miss My Husband
I miss my husband. Six years later, I miss him as if he’d died only 2 months ago. I miss my husband on the most perfect of days. And I miss him even more on my worst days. I miss my husband as I snuggle with my guy on the couch while watching TV. Perhaps it’s a...
My Big Widow Regret: Find Your Tribe
At 32 years old, instead of planning my first wedding anniversary celebration, I was planning my husband’s funeral. There were no warnings, no time to say a final goodbye. One day he was here and by the following morning, he was gone. It’s been six years...
Confessions of a “Widhoe”
It was August 23, 2017, when Michelle Miller of Mouth Michelle’s Musing shared an Instagram photo with my support group that had fingers typing in a frenzy. Finally! There was a word to describe what so many widows were feeling… WID•HOE: When you need...
Widowhood Survival Guide: Life Hacks Every Widow Needs
When your life goes from “we” to “me”, all the household responsibilities fall squarely on the surviving spouse’s shoulders. From cooking to repairs, a group of widows shares their favorite life-hacks: Children & Parenting Compile a list of five backup babysitters...
The Dual Reality of Dating Post-Loss
There are those who will tell me that I shouldn’t be dating...that I shouldn’t involve another person in my life until I’m “over” my late husband. However, I very much believe that my heart is capable of loving two men. I am able to give the very best of me to another...
International Widows’ Day: Widowhood Across the Globe
International Widows’ Day is observed annually on June 23. Established by The Loomba Foundation, the day raises awareness about the plight of widows and many of the injustices they face daily. According to the United Nations, “once widowed, women in many countries...
Check on Your Strong Friend: The One Widowed by Suicide
When you own the merchandise of a designer or see your favorite celebrity in a film, on some level you feel you know them. When you read the gossip blogs or scroll through their social media accounts, you can’t help but feel connected. It’s no wonder that...
Why My Late-Husband Is Never a Choice
When my late-husband shows up, he shows up boldly - just as he lived. There is no confusion, no misunderstanding. Several months ago, as a grief wave washed over me, I did what so many other widows do. I wondered what my life would have looked like had I not lost my...
Choosing to Love a Widow
There are those who will tell you that a woman who still grieves her dead husband isn’t capable of love. They’ll tell you to run because you’ll always come second. You’ll be told it’s not fair that you must share her heart with another. Please know,...
To the Person Questioning a Widow’s Happiness
Despite losing a husband, I still continue to believe in love. I see your anniversary posts and though it pains me that I never got to that milestone with my own husband, I’m happy for you. I hope and pray you never have to deal with the harsh reality of celebrating...
Grief: It’s Our Past, Present and Future
“You have to move on.” If you’ve been widowed more than 90 days, you’ve inevitably heard that phrase from well-meaning family, friends and acquaintances. Move on… What many people don’t understand is that losing a spouse is the equivalent of a massive ball...
How an Encounter in a Cemetery Taught Me to Grieve And Live
It’s one of the most defining moments in my life since losing my husband. It was a couple days after the funeral and I was back at the cemetery which had become my place of solace (besides my shower, of course). As I sat on the grass, with my husband – the...
Why You’ll Never Be Loved That Way Again
When my husband died, one of the things that crossed my mind and brought a great deal of sadness was knowing that no one would ever love me the way he did. We had such a special connection. He was the Ying to my Yang. We were the couple that random...
Types of Widows People Tend to Avoid (Including Other Widows)
As a widowed community, we often lament about being disappointed by friends. Whether they think widowhood is contagious or that we’ve become man-eaters (and want their man), there is no shortage of reasons why once solid friendships dissolve. I know no...
What My Dating Post-Loss Means (And Doesn’t)
People have been dying from time immemorial, so you would think that at some point society would have concluded that it’s not okay to judge a widow for opening her heart to love again. No one goes through as much agony, guilt, pain, sadness and uncertainty quite like...