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Whether you’ve been widowed six months or six years, the grief and pain of losing a spouse or partner never goes away. Join me as I share my own story and those of others from the young and widowed community. Let me know what topics hit close to home, which posts you draw strength from or how you’ve been inspired to keep moving through the overwhelming pain. It’s a place where you’ll always feel connected, knowing there are other young widows and widowers across the globe who understand the many emotions that come with being young and widowed.

The Real Truth About Dating Post Loss

You’ll Make Many False Starts One day, it’ll hit you that you’re in a "good" place. You’ve sat with your grief and you’re ready to open your heart to love again. You either join an online dating site or you ask friends and family to be on the look out for a potential...

The Grief Lesson I Missed

I’ll admit it. I’m the odd widow out. It’s true when they say that there’s no right way to grieve. We simply go through the motions hoping to find some measure of comfort…something to dull the pain. Sometimes it’s exercise. Sometimes it’s medication. Sometimes, it’s...

Five Mistakes Widows Should Try to Avoid

1. Living in the Past/Future You’ve had possibly the most devastating thing happen to you. Whether you were married for 20 years or two months, nothing prepares you to lose your spouse. There’s no pre-planning guide, no words anyone can say to mentally and emotionally...

Widow Goggles: What Do You See?

Quite possibly, you’ve had the most horrific thing happen to you. I know, because it’s happened to me too. You’ve lost your husband, the father of your children, your best friend, your lover...your person. I get it. It sucks. I’ll repeat it again. I  get it. It sucks....

To the Christian Widow Questioning Her Faith

The church. It’s a place of solace and comfort. But on March 11, 2012, it was the place where I received the most devastating news of my life. My father-in-law called to say my hubby – the one we all thought was just battling a bad cold – had died. The place where I...

The Trouble With Only Dating Widowers

I read it time and time again: articles touting the benefits of widows dating widowers. Some have even gone as far as to suggest that only someone who has lost a spouse could possibly understand the intricacies that come with dating post-loss; therefore, widows should...

Widow: What’s in a Name?

“What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet” – Romeo and Juliet WIDOW. There’s no way to pretty up the word. We can’t sprinkle fancy perfume on the word to mask the stink that comes with it. There are some who feel the word is...

Burying Secrets: Healing Through the Anger

I was reading the article that Kerry posted recently about losing a spouse when your marriage wasn't perfect and it resonated with me deeply. I have not shared my story with hardly anyone because I have kept this secret for my husband (and if I am completely honest –...

You Know You’re Widowed When…

Widowed. It’s a more than simply having lost a spouse. From the serious to the tear-jerking to the downright hilarious, a group of young widows and widowers shared their responses to “You Know You’re Widowed When….” Was All of This Necessary? You have a substantially...

Triggers: They Hit You Out of the Blue

Triggers... They sneak up on you when you least expect it. As I got out of bed this morning and said a prayer, I instinctively reached for my phone. Jimmy Kimmel was trending. I assumed for yet another hilarious spoof but I was wrong. His monologue was about his...

The Before and After

As the Admin for a widowed group, I’m charged with keeping everyone as safe as possible. That means screening all prospective members to be sure they are in fact widowed (don’t get me started on the fake widows/widowers who try to join the group on an almost daily...

8 Things That Now Annoy Young Widows

A distinguished panel of widows recently convened to vent about every-day things that now cause incessant eye-rolling: 1. Wedding Dress Commercials No offense to David’s Bridal but their commercials no longer take us to a happy place. We now look at the couple, filled...

When Faith & Death Collide

Bad things aren’t supposed to happen when you’re sitting in church. There should be a rule that you're protected by God’s grace and mercy while you’re in His house. But on March 11, 2012, my world was shattered. As I sat worshiping, my husband was taking his last...

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