I am a card-carrying member of the same club. You know the one – the club none of us ever wanted to be part of. The club we were dragged into because of cancer, a drunk driver, a workplace accident or even suicide. Club membership comes with gossip, innuendoes,...
Today, I am angry. I’m angry because so many in the widowed community are told to “get over” it. To just “move on”…to “stop holding onto the past”. But there is so much that family, friends and society don’t see or refuse to see. Our loss didn’t end the day our...
Dear Non-Widowed Community: In almost every aspect of our life, we get to love more than one of something. We get to love multiple children…numerous friends…more than one pet…many different books, foods, places, etc. Doesn’t it stand to reason that we can love more...
“You’re so young. How did he die?” Perhaps I too was like you…curious to make sense of how a life so full of potential ends so unexpectedly. But now that I’ve been widowed for 5+ years, I know the “how” doesn’t matter. Not to me, and not to anyone who has experienced...
Hey, you! The one commenting on the fact that I just posted about my upcoming wedding anniversary despite the fact I lost my spouse two years ago. And, you over there…the person whispering about my tagging my husband in my vacation photo with the kids, even though his...
Love, it’s a beautiful thing. There is such joy in seeing a couple – giddy with love for each other – come together to exchange wedding vows surrounded by friends and family. Though we are widowed, we can appreciate love for what it is. We had that...