When someone questions a widow for dating or assumes she’s “over” her spouse, it really feels like a stab to the chest. How does one “get over” having their heart shattered or their world flipped inside out. How does one “get over” seeing children hurt for their...
It was 1991 when Salt-n-Pepa’s hit song, “Let’s Talk About Sex” blasted from radios across the country. Sex. It’s often a taboo subject in the widowed community. People think we shouldn’t be dating, let alone having sex. Heck, at times, even we feel guilty for getting...
I read once that it takes someone with super human qualities to love a woman who is widowed. He needed to have the patience of Job and the strength of Superman to understand that our hearts are big enough to love him and our late spouses at the same time plus deal...
I often see stories by my fellow widows who meet a great guy post-loss – their ‘Chapter 2’ as they lovingly refer to them. The widow was deep in her grief, didn’t know her up from down and was unsure how to move forward with her life. Then she met him. He...
When I met my hubby, I was in a long-distance relationship with a college classmate. I was honest and upfront with my hubby but not quite so open with my boyfriend. Eventually I realized that I loved them both and knew I had to make a choice. Obviously, my hubby won....
“What are you going to do about your in-laws?” I was confused. “Do about them? What do you mean?” “What if you get married again?” she inquired. “Shouldn’t you stop talking to them as much?” As a widow, I know the role in-laws...
