We lost what feels like a part of us. The future we visualized or planned with a late spouse was erased with a diagnosis, sudden death or maybe even suicide. For many, the thought then became how will I continue to live. How can I make decisions alone? How can I...
Not unlike many widows, my world completely shattered when my husband died. When practically every goal and plan involves your spouse it feels almost impossible to move forward – heck, move in any direction. At 32 years old, I wondered what my life would now look...
1. Everyone will tell you how to “widow”. They’ll tell you about a coworker, distant cousin or former neighbor. Take the information with a grain of salt. Grief is not linear. There’s no one way to be widowed. 2. In losing you’ll gain. From in-laws to friends, there...
On the outside, the world sees you hurting from the loss of your spouse. They don’t know; however, that in addition to the “normal” feelings of grief, you’re also struggling with guilt.You blame yourself for not insisting that he see the doctor when his cough got...
My ShowerAfter my husband died, my shower became my refuge. It was the place I could escape to allow the tears to fall freely. Some days the sobs were barely noticeable but other days, the walls didn’t feel sturdy enough to handle my pain. The shower was where I could...
It’s often said that when a widow loses a spouse, her heart expands to allow new love in. While I absolutely believe this to be true, I often wonder about the section of my heart that remains off limits. The part that never imagined ‘til death do us part’ coming after...
