You’ve been told that you’ve survived possibly the worst thing that will ever happen to you: the death of a spouse. Despite wanting to give up, you pushed through. You continued to face each day even when you wished for death to take you. The pain was just...
I was not there. I don’t know what it feels like to get the devastating diagnosis or how you put on a brave face after hearing, “There are no other treatment options”. My widowed story doesn’t involve encouraging my husband not to lose hope while deep inside knowing...
When my husband died, though I missed all the wonderful memories we created together, it was the thought of a future without him that pained me most. We were young (32 and 35) with the world at our feet. There were so many things to accomplish, so many dream to...
I can remember the exact moment in time I felt happy – true joy – again. I’d been afraid to embrace what was left of my life out of fear that it meant I was forgetting. Forgetting that at just one year into my marriage, I was burying my spouse. Forgetting the man who...
I’ve become selfish since I lost my hubby. Well, maybe unempathetic is a better word. You’re having a bad day at work? At least your hubby didn’t die. You can’t find a sitter so you have to cancel plans for the concert you’ve waited for all summer? Say thank God your...
“Why are you going to hang out with a bunch of sad, depressed people?” Widows/widowers – especially those beyond the one year mark – are often chided by friends and family for continuing to be associated with “depressing groups”. But, widow meet ups aren’t the typical...
