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Whether you’ve been widowed six months or six years, the grief and pain of losing a spouse or partner never goes away. Join me as I share my own story and those of others from the young and widowed community. Let me know what topics hit close to home, which posts you draw strength from or how you’ve been inspired to keep moving through the overwhelming pain. It’s a place where you’ll always feel connected, knowing there are other young widows and widowers across the globe who understand the many emotions that come with being young and widowed.
Loving Again: No Choice Required
When I met my hubby, I was in a long-distance relationship with a college classmate. I was honest and upfront with my hubby but not quite so open with my boyfriend. Eventually I realized that I loved them both and knew I had to make a choice. Obviously, my hubby won....
Unraveling the “Time Heals All Wounds” Lie
When my husband died, though I missed all the wonderful memories we created together, it was the thought of a future without him that pained me most. We were young (32 and 35) with the world at our feet. There were so many things to accomplish, so many dream to...
In-laws: They are Part of the Package
"What are you going to do about your in-laws?" I was confused. "Do about them? What do you mean?" "What if you get married again?” she inquired. “Shouldn't you stop talking to them as much?" As a widow, I know the role in-laws play in a post-loss world. I know many...
The Real Truth About Dating Post Loss
You’ll Make Many False Starts One day, it’ll hit you that you’re in a "good" place. You’ve sat with your grief and you’re ready to open your heart to love again. You either join an online dating site or you ask friends and family to be on the look out for a potential...
Widow Goggles: What Do You See?
Quite possibly, you’ve had the most horrific thing happen to you. I know, because it’s happened to me too. You’ve lost your husband, the father of your children, your best friend, your lover...your person. I get it. It sucks. I’ll repeat it again. I get it. It sucks....
I Didn’t Think My Husband Would Have Killed Himself…Until He Did
I’ll admit it. When the news broke that 52 year old rock star Chris Cornell had died, the name didn’t ring a bell. But, based on the reactions of my social media friends, I knew his music had touched many lives. As I read about his death, which was ultimately ruled a...
Different Paths to Same Widow Title
I was not there. I don’t know what it feels like to get the devastating diagnosis or how you put on a brave face after hearing, “There are no other treatment options”. My widowed story doesn’t involve encouraging my husband not to lose hope while deep inside knowing...
The Guilt of Living in a Post-Loss World
I can remember the exact moment in time I felt happy – true joy – again. I’d been afraid to embrace what was left of my life out of fear that it meant I was forgetting. Forgetting that at just one year into my marriage, I was burying my spouse. Forgetting the man who...
Four Reasons to Consider a Widow Meet Up
“Why are you going to hang out with a bunch of sad, depressed people?” Widows/widowers – especially those beyond the one year mark – are often chided by friends and family for continuing to be associated with “depressing groups”. But, widow meet ups aren’t the typical...
The Grief Lesson I Missed
I’ll admit it. I’m the odd widow out. It’s true when they say that there’s no right way to grieve. We simply go through the motions hoping to find some measure of comfort…something to dull the pain. Sometimes it’s exercise. Sometimes it’s medication. Sometimes, it’s...
The Trouble With Only Dating Widowers
I read it time and time again: articles touting the benefits of widows dating widowers. Some have even gone as far as to suggest that only someone who has lost a spouse could possibly understand the intricacies that come with dating post-loss; therefore, widows should...
Burying Secrets: Healing Through the Anger
I was reading the article that Kerry posted recently about losing a spouse when your marriage wasn't perfect and it resonated with me deeply. I have not shared my story with hardly anyone because I have kept this secret for my husband (and if I am completely honest –...
Even With a Dead Hubby, Widows Deserve a Plus One
Love, it's a beautiful thing. There is such joy in seeing a couple - giddy with love for each other - come together to exchange wedding vows surrounded by friends and family. Though we are widowed, we can appreciate love for what it is. We had that same love too. The...
As a Widow, I Don’t Own Sadness
I’ve become selfish since I lost my hubby. Well, maybe unempathetic is a better word. You’re having a bad day at work? At least your hubby didn’t die. You can’t find a sitter so you have to cancel plans for the concert you’ve waited for all summer? Say thank God your...
Widowed and Dating: Loving Two Men
When a mother who has lost a child has another baby, no one dares question if she’s capable of loving another child. No one wonders if her heart is big enough to love her “angel” baby while simultaneously loving the smiling toddler at her side. When she shares photos...
Five Mistakes Widows Should Try to Avoid
1. Living in the Past/Future You’ve had possibly the most devastating thing happen to you. Whether you were married for 20 years or two months, nothing prepares you to lose your spouse. There’s no pre-planning guide, no words anyone can say to mentally and emotionally...
Widow: What’s in a Name?
“What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet” – Romeo and Juliet WIDOW. There’s no way to pretty up the word. We can’t sprinkle fancy perfume on the word to mask the stink that comes with it. There are some who feel the word is...
This Widowed Club Ain’t for the Faint of Heart
We don’t get to take a break when our husband, gone for a week to handle company business, returns home. We don’t get to take a break when Sunday’s games are over and the final score for Monday Night Football scrolls across the screen. We don’t get to take a break...