A recent incident took me back to a memory that had been neatly folded and tucked away in the furthest corner of my mind. I’d just gotten the call that my husband had died – unexpectedly, with no warning. After my brain processed the magnitude of what I’d heard while...
Shannon* was excited. She’d spent the last two months chatting with a handsome military man and tonight they were scheduled to have their first date. It didn’t matter that it was a virtual one. If things went well, an in-person date wouldn’t be far off. He just needed...
1. I’m Some How to Blame for My Spouse’s DeathWhen my husband died, I wasn’t there. Susan was right there, in their bedroom, as her hubby slipped away. Rachel argued with her spouse an hour before he took his life. Toya and her fiancé enjoyed a romantic dinner...
Death makes people uncomfortable. We get it. You’re unsure what to say…what to do. As widows and widowers, we often internalize the comments and actions made by family and friends that offend us. This can strain relationships and cause families to grow apart. Instead...
There are days where, despite your best efforts, the pain of losing your spouse hits you out of nowhere. Grief waves…that’s what another widow calls it. Today, it feels a typhoon. Part of being open and honest is acknowledging those days. People often assume that I’m...
